Pitfalls of Divorce: Taking The “My Way or The Highway” Approach to Divorce

Divorce is never easy. It's a difficult and emotional process that can affect everyone involved. When you add children to the mix, things can get even more complicated. As a parent, it's important to remember that divorce is a negotiation, not a battle. Taking the "my way or the highway" approach will only prolong the process and increase legal costs. Instead, it's important to be open-minded and willing to compromise so you can move on from your divorce with less stress and fewer regrets.

What is the "My Way or the Highway" Approach?

The "my way or the highway" approach is when one person refuses to compromise during a negotiation. This approach is often used to get what they want but usually backfires. When you take this approach, you're not interested in finding a solution that works for both parties. Instead, you're more interested in winning the argument than finding a resolution.

Why You Should Avoid the "My Way or the Highway" Approach

Taking the "my way or the highway" approach during your divorce can have long-term consequences. It can prolong the process and increase legal costs, adding to the stress you're already feeling. Additionally, this approach can damage your relationship with your ex-partner and make it difficult to co-parent effectively. Finally, if you have children, it's important to remember that your divorce will also affect them. Refusing to compromise may satisfy your need to win in the short term, but it's not worth sacrificing your long-term relationship with your children.

How to Avoid Taking the "My Way or the Highway" Approach

If you get angry or resentful during negotiations, step back and try to see things from your ex-partner's perspective. Instead of focusing on what you disagree with, look for common ground and attempt to find solutions that work for both of you. If things start to get heated, consider seeking out a mediator who can help facilitate productive conversations and keep things moving forward.

Taking the "my way or the highway" approach may feel satisfying but can have long-term consequences. By being open-minded and willing to compromise, you can move on from your divorce with less stress and fewer regrets.

Take care 💕,

Jessica King

King Mediation Services

PS : Stay tuned for next week's blog, where I'll cover what you can do if your spouse takes the "my way or the highway" approach to divorce.

*The information in this post is not offered as legal, financial, or therapeutic advice. Contact an attorney, therapist, or financial professional to seek legal, therapeutic or financial advice. The information provided is for educational and informational purposes.*